When going through a divorce, it is usually hard for parents to imagine spending any holiday time away from their children. Most parents will agree to a holiday parenting schedule that alternates major holidays on an annual basis. For example, 1 parent receives Christmas Eve in even-numbered years and Christmas Day in odd-numbered years, and the remainder of school break is divided equally. Sometimes this is the only "fair" way to divide the time that both parents want every year and it is often used as a "default" schedule in the event of a disagreement.
What if your family has special traditions or travels for the holidays? The beauty of utilizing methods such as the Collaborative Divorce Practice is to give parents the opportunity to have a genuine and detailed discussion about schedules with their children. When parents can sit down and discuss their feelings and take the time to listen to each other, results can be amazing. Implementing this mutual respect also encourages parents to work together to make changes to the schedule when necessary.
It is important for parents to take advantage of the quality time that they do receive each year and to encourage the children to have fun with the other parent, as well. Children should never feel "bad" for having to leave a parent during the holiday. They should be able to enjoy time at each home. If the children feel like their separated parents support the schedule, they will have good feelings about it, too.
If you're considering divorce but worry about the parenting time schedule, holidays, and important details of raising your children with a soon to be ex-spouse, find out more about the collaborative process. Divorce is stressful enough.
Pospiech Family Law & Mediation, PLLC is focused on finding resolutions that help your family move forward. Attorney Jessica L. Pospiech provides a calming influence and gives her clients the care and attention that is so necessary for families facing difficult and emotional circumstances. Ms. Pospiech ensures that she is readily available for her clients’ questions and concerns. Please do not hesitate to reach out.
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