Divorce Process Continues Despite COVID-19

By now you have seen several articles in the news about the backlog that Courts are facing due to the delays from COVID-19 Stay at Home Orders. Many articles stress that the pandemic has slowed the divorce process due to limited access to the Courts.

However, that is not entirely true. Welcome to the Collaborative Divorce Process. While this Process has been around since the 1990s and utilized by many Collaborative Divorce Practitioners worldwide prior to the pandemic, it has never been more relevant, helpful, and beneficial to families going through a major life transition.

The Collaborative Divorce Process allows spouses to resolve all issues related to their divorce while staying out-of-court. Each spouse will have their own Collaborative family law attorney with the option of involving additional team members such as a divorce coach (licensed mental health professional); financial neutral; child specialist; business valuator, and/or any other professionals who would be helpful for the family’s circumstances. The team holds as many meetings as necessary to work through the various aspects of a divorce settlement agreement (e..g custody, parenting time, child support, spousal support, property division). These meetings are now taking place via Zoom, which not only allows families to continue meeting safely during this pandemic, but it also provides more convenience by eliminating travel time to and from various offices.

Once the couple reaches a final resolution, the attorneys will guide the clients through the Court process and the Judge will sign off on all final paperwork. Even during the pandemic, when a couple has already settled prior to filing their court case, Judges tend to schedule a court date as soon as possible (within the time frames required by Michigan law). In addition, in certain counties, Judges have been more willing to proceed with Zoom or telephone hearings when couples have already settled because the hard work has already been completed. The Judge will only need to hear a few sworn statements from the couple and all final documents can be electronically filed, keeping the team safe and out-of-court during this pandemic. Not to mention, the Judges will appreciate the fact that the family has utilized an out-of-court option, helping them slowly eliminate their current backlog, so they are more likely to accommodate.

Important takeaway: You have options. The divorce process can continue out-of-court and families can do so with the support of a team. convenient meeting times, and moving at a pace that is most comfortable for the family with no court deadlines or backlog issues lingering over their heads.

If you’d like to find out more about your options and the Collaborative Divorce Process, please do not hesitate to reach out. (734) 531-8554; jessica@mifamilylawfirm.com

Co-Parenting During COVID-19 Crisis

Parents in Michigan and throughout the world have many questions about how to handle custody and parenting time issues during this global pandemic.  It’s normal to feel like stress is at an all-time high due to uncertain job conditions, school closures, physical distancing, concerns about health and wellness, and the list goes on.

A healthy and cooperative co-parenting relationship is crucial during these times.  Many parents are reaching out to their family law attorneys asking if “They are required to follow the existing parenting time order?” or “Can I reach an agreement with the other parent to modify the current parenting time order?”  or “What do we do if our children or the other parent might have COVID-19 or be at risk of exposure of COVID-19?”

Keep in mind that while many adults are scared and trying to approach this COVID-19 outbreak on a day-by-day basis, your children are also scared.  They are looking to their parents for love, support, and stability during an otherwise very uncertain time.  Putting your children first and continuous communication regarding their well-being will help your family get through this crisis. 

The Michigan State Court Administrator’s Office has produced an Advisory regarding Custody and Parenting Time during the COVID-19 Outbreak here:

https://courts.michigan.gov/Administration/SCAO/Resources/Documents/COVID-19/CustodyPT-FAQ.pdf

It is impossible for this Advisory to cover every single possibility/question and each family’s situation will be fact specific.  Use this document as a guideline and review the helpful links cited within the document. In addition, if you still have questions regarding your specific circumstances, do not hesitate to reach out to discuss options and creative ideas for handling your situation.  Throughout the month of April, I am offering complimentary, 30 minute phone and/or video consultations to help families through the unique circumstances of this COVID-19 crisis.  Please do not hesitate to reach out for support.  Together we can get through hard things. (734) 531-8554; jessica@mifamilylawfirm.com

Stay safe and healthy,
Jessica

Remote Mediation During COVID-19 Restrictions

Alternative Dispute Resolution (“ADR”), i.e. resolving issues out-of-court, has always been an important component of family law cases; however, during the COVID-19 shutdown and restrictions, it is now more important than ever.  Except for true emergencies, courthouses have suspended in-person hearings.  This leaves many families questioning how they will continue to manage their current family court case or questioning how to initiate the custody or divorce process if they have not already done so. 

Mediation is an out-of-court process where a neutral, third party (the mediator) facilitates a discussion between parties to resolve outstanding issues regarding custody, parenting time, child and spousal support, property settlement, and/or any other issues involved in your family law matters.   Prior to COVID-19, these mediation sessions took place at the mediator’s office, a private room at the courthouse, one of the attorney’s offices (if attorneys were involved), or another agreed upon location.  Perhaps one of the silver linings of this pandemic is highlighting other cost-effective, convenient means of conducting mediation, i.e. remote, video conferences.   

Videoconferencing platforms, such as Zoom, permit joint rooms and separate, “breakout rooms” to maintain privacy.  For security, the host can set up a unique password for the scheduled session and each participant is sent to a “waiting room” for the host to accept them into the session, to ensure random individuals are not granted access.

If you are unfamiliar with Zoom video conferencing, check out a tutorial here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fMUxzrgZvZQ&t=124s

Families need support during this time of uncertainty.  Many family law attorneys and mediators are adapting to the fast pace changes that take place day-to-day during this global pandemic.  As a family law mediator, I am offering video conferencing for mediation sessions.  Whether couples would like to mediate the issues with or without attorneys, I have the ability to offer private, safe spaces to resolve conflict and de-escalate tension.   While many of us prefer the face-to-face sessions, we cannot put support for these families on hold.  I am doing everything in my power to help people feel comfortable with these updated processes.

If you or someone you know is struggling with how to move forward with their current case or would like to initiate a new process, please do not hesitate to reach out.  Mediation is not appropriate for all families or issues; however, it is worthwhile to explore this option specific to your own circumstances.  Please reach out at (734) 531-8554 or jessica@mifamilylawfirm.com.
Stay safe and healthy,

Jessica

Co-Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents

Practicing exclusively in family law, I have seen many co-parenting relationships spiral out of control, but I have also seen many parents succeed.  Most rewarding, I have worked with clients who, at our initial meeting, tell me there is no hope of co-parenting with their soon-to-be ex-spouse, but later find out that with the right mindset and communication tools, it can work for the sake of their children.  The parents transform and work together in ways they couldn't imagine at the start of their process.

In my opinion, based on what I have seen, one of the hardest parts of a co-parenting relationship is putting aside the hurt, anger, or other feelings that adults experience during the divorce process.  It is certainly important to address the emotional aspects of a divorce and there are many options for clients as they move through the process (e.g. therapy, life coach, yoga, other self-care regimens, etc.). The key is to avoid working through these feelings in the presence of the children.

When children see their divorced/separated parents communicating respectfully, attending sport/extracurricular events in the same building, and appreciating one another as a parent, children can thrive.  Do not just take it from me.  I came across this wonderful article, "Co-Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents" at Helpguide.org and it provides some wonderful tips for those who are interested in a successful co-parenting relationship.  It all starts with a desire to make it work, knowing that each parent will learn along the way; we are all human and make mistakes, but putting the kids at the forefront will be worth your while.

How is your co-parenting relationship?  If you have a success story you'd like to share, I'd love to hear about it!  Please feel free to reach out: (734) 531-8554; jessica@mifamilylawfirm.com.

Divorcing Couple Mistaken for Best Friends

This morning I was sitting outside of the courtroom next to a man and woman who were waiting to be officially divorced by the Judge.  I knew this because their conversation clearly discussed exchanges and transactions associated with divorce (e.g. visit to Secretary of State to transfer title of vehicles and discussions about parenting time exchanges and their children).   However, had I not heard the actual details of the conversation and only focused on the tone, non-verbal communication, and facial expressions of the people, I would have thought they were best friends discussing their latest adventures in life together.  The amount of respect these individuals had for one another was fascinating and refreshing.  I knew right away the couple had to have utilized the collaborative practice for their divorce, or at least mediation.

Sure enough, once in the courtroom, it was made clear to me that they did in fact utilize collaborative divorce attorneys and, based on what I observed, their children’s future is in good hands even with separated parents.  The power of collaborating through your divorce process never ceases to amaze me when you observe the benefits firsthand.  These individuals committed to a process that focused on quality solutions.  They were able to resolve issues with one another in a manner that did not damage their children.  It’s amazing to think about the future you can create for your family when respect and honesty are at the forefront of a process and parties are able to directly participate in finding solutions.  The process is still likely to involve intense discussions and disagreements; however, when emotions are navigated through a calm and honest atmosphere, solutions can be found and relationships can be restructured and repaired.  Had the parties immediately resorted to filing motions and planning attacks against one another in the courtroom when divorce discussions got hard, I’m sure I would have been listening to a much different conversation in the court hallway this morning.

If you are considering divorce and think the collaborative practice might be a good option for your family, please do not hesitate to contact me for more information.  Educate yourself on the different methods for handling a divorce and if it is at all possible to salvage respect with your spouse and protect your children from the often damaging effects of divorce, you should at least find out more.  

Pospiech Family Law & Mediation, PLLC is focused on finding resolutions that help your family move forward.  Attorney Jessica L. Pospiech provides a calming influence and gives her clients the care and attention that is so necessary for families facing difficult and emotional circumstances.  Ms. Pospiech ensures that she is readily available for her clients’ questions and concerns.  Please do not hesitate to reach out.  

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Divorce and Abandonment

It is a common misconception that if you leave the marital home during the divorce process, you will face issues with “abandonment.”  Often times, it is a spouse throwing around this word to instill fear, but without any real understanding of what it means.

Once a divorce case is filed, although it is often awkward and a little uncomfortable, both parties have the right to remain in the marital home until the divorce is finalized.  However, it is not uncommon that at some point in time it becomes unbearable for parties to continue living together. Sometimes, there are serious safety concerns (physical abuse, substance abuse issues, etc.) that require one spouse to leave the home.

Despite what your spouse may threaten, if you do leave the home during the divorce process, the marital home still remains an asset to equitably divide.  However, this usually means that the two of you will continue sharing all household expenses in the same manner that you were prior to the filing for divorce. Therefore, prior to moving out it is important to consider this financial dilemma.  Some individuals are fortunate enough to have family members or friends nearby to stay with, free of charge, while the divorce settlement is negotiated.  Even though the home is still considered a marital asset, it is important to consider the length of time that you will be out of the home, as this may affect who is ultimately awarded the home in the divorce and you may want to make arrangements to gather your personal belongings to avoid items being destroyed or disappearing.

It is another misconception that by moving out of the marital home during the divorce process, you will be “charged” with abandonment for leaving your children.  If you have children, the best option is to work out a temporary custody, parenting time, and support agreement prior to moving so that you and your spouse ensure that the children maintain a healthy relationship with both of you.  If you cannot work out an agreement regarding your children prior to moving, then contact an attorney immediately.  You want to ensure that you are having some sort of contact with your children pending the divorce to protect yourself with respect to custody and parenting time issues.  This situation should not to be confused with the State of Michigan charging a parent for criminal neglect and abuse of a child (see Michigan’s statute MCL 750.136bfor definitions).

Pospiech Family Law & Mediation, PLLC is focused on finding resolutions that help your family move forward.  Attorney Jessica L. Pospiech provides a calming influence and gives her clients the care and attention that is so necessary for families facing difficult and emotional circumstances.  Ms. Pospiech ensures that she is readily available for her clients’ questions and concerns.  Please do not hesitate to reach out.  

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Information Needed To Run Child Support

The child support amount recommended by the Michigan Child Support Formula is presumed accurate.  The formula is based on the needs of the child and the actual resources of each parent.  Therefore, it is important that you provide your attorney with detailed information to input into the formula for an accurate result.

The following is a list of some of the most important information that you should gather prior to meeting with your attorney to run child support numbers:

• Your gross annual income and opposing party’s gross annual income;
• Provide most recent tax return, W-2’s, 1099’s, year-to-date paystubs, bonus information, and other income information.  If income varies year-to-year for either party, it is helpful to review the 3 previous years’ of income to determine an average.
• Any monthly health care costs provided for the minor child(ren) by you and/or the other party (note: it is important to obtain information that illustrates what your monthly payments would be if you just covered yourself versus what you pay to add the child(ren) – the difference in those amounts is what you will receive credit for in the formula);
• The number of overnights that each parent exercises (note: in some situations, this is still an unknown number as the parties are still working on a parenting time arrangement, the formula can be run with a few different options to get an idea of the child support amount);
• The monthly/annual amount of work-related daycare expenses paid by either party.
• Information regarding mandatory retirement plan contributions as a condition of employment.
• Any other mandatory withholdings as a condition of employment (e.g. union dues).
• Amount of alimony paid to spouses from prior marriages.

Every situation is unique and sometimes the income information is more complex, like in situations where a party runs their own business or bonus and overtime payments vary drastically month-to-month.  However, the above list is a good starting point when discussing child support.  It is important that you share your specific circumstances with an attorney, as the information can largely affect how the numbers are ran.  As a parent, you want to ensure that the minor child(ren) are receiving adequate support while at each parent’s household.

Pospiech Family Law & Mediation, PLLC is focused on finding resolutions that help your family move forward.  Attorney Jessica L. Pospiech provides a calming influence and gives her clients the care and attention that is so necessary for families facing difficult and emotional circumstances.  Ms. Pospiech ensures that she is readily available for her clients’ questions and concerns.  Please do not hesitate to reach out.  

              P: (734) 531-8554

              E: jessica@mifamilylawfirm.com